Why being alone feels scary?

We confuse loneliness with solitude. Most people can’t be alone. Not because they’re social. But because they’re scared of what comes up in the silence.

The moment the phone is down, the brain pulls up old tapes mistakes, regrets, guilt, shame, and questions with no answers. So we reach for distraction. Reels, tweets, streaks. Dopamine is cheaper than honesty.

Solitude isn’t about meditating on a hilltop. It’s about training oneself to sit still without outsourcing your mind. At first, it feels unbearable. Then it gets normal. Then it becomes leverage.

If you can’t be with yourself, you’ll always need noise in one form (people) or other. If you can, you’ll see patterns no one else notices. You’ll hear thoughts before they calcify into culture.

There is an Italian saying, “Dolce far niente.” The sweetness of doing nothing.

But it’s not nothing. It’s where you meet the raw version of yourself. And that’s where original thinking starts.

Cheers!

PS: Can hold for 10 mins of stillness

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