On Resistance

There’s a kind of resistance that isn’t noble. It doesn’t strengthen or shape us. It only burns quietly. This resistance is subtle, not always obvious as a battle. Often, it’s simply refusing to feel the guilt, fear, sadness, or even happiness. Anything that feels overwhelming, sudden, or strange.

We think resisting helps us stay in control. But it creates tension. The more we avoid, the more friction we feel. This inner conflict splits us. One part feels. The other part resists. And that gap creates more suffering than the emotion itself.

What helps is not control, but collaboration. Letting emotions pass through, instead of pushing them away. Not everything needs to be fixed. Some things just want space.

Resistance is heavy. Acceptance is light.

But this binary between resistance and acceptance might itself be limiting or hard. What’s needed is discernment! Knowing which emotions to lean into, which to hold lightly, and which to simply notice without getting caught up.

Sometimes the kindest choice is neither to fight a feeling nor surrender to it fully, but to sit with it and decide how to engage.

Cheers

PS: Acceptance isn’t easy-peasy!

Check out the previous post: Co-Regulating with a Ghost!

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