It might sound absurd, but it’s true. You have nothing to prove to anyone. Not your parents. Not your friends or enemies. Not the people who doubted you.
Every time you do something just to show you’re worthy, you subtly agree with the belief that you weren’t enough to begin with. That’s the trap.
Of course, your role as a parent, a professional, a partner, or a friend demand effort, work, performances and accountability. But effort given from alignment feels different from effort driven by validation. One expands you, the latter exhausts you.
There’s a quote that says,
Don’t become what you hate.
And that’s what proving does, it quietly turns you into the very person whose approval you once craved.
The path forward isn’t to stop caring. It’s to care differently. Do the work because it feels right. Build because it fulfills you. Not to silence doubt but because you no longer need to.
Learn to pause between the stimulus and your response, that brief silence is where power lies. The day your actions stop being reactions, you’re finally free.
Cheers!
PS: maybe to self (that’s a bigger and never ending trap, lol)
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