Author: Sunandhini R

In the world of Korean drama, not every story is meant for everyone. If you’re not a dedicated K-Drama fan, you might not understand the unique charm of series like those written by Park Hae-young. Once upon a time, I used to watch dramas solely for the leads, especially if they included names like Lee Min Ho, Song Joong Ki, Park Hye-shin, or Park Seo Joon, no matter how cringe-worthy or tedious the plot seemed. If I started a series, I felt compelled to see it through to the end. However, things have changed for me in recent years.

Nowadays, my choice of K-dramas is no longer solely based on the star-studded cast. Instead, I pay closer attention to the writers, their previous works, reviews, and scripts. People often rave about J.K. Rowling’s Harry Potter series, but I must confess that I haven’t watched the movies or read the books. This marks the first time I find myself actively seeking out shows written by Park Hae-young.

It all began with “Liberation Notes,” followed by “My Mister” and “Another Miss Oh.” Park Hae-young has also co-authored a few movies that I’m yet to explore. When you delve into her creations, you’ll notice a few remarkable elements that set her work apart. Most of my childhood was filled with movies where the focus was primarily on the early days of love and the happier stages of life. If the lead characters encountered any hardship or struggle, it was typically resolved with a short, uplifting song or a “happily ever after” ending. Park Hae-young’s works, however, take a different path.

Here are a few things I’ve observed in her storytelling:

#Realistic Portrayal of Life: In contrast to numerous K-Dramas, Park Hae-young’s narratives explore the everyday facets of life. Her stories are more inclined to address common challenges like financial troubles or relationship issues rather than embarking on world-saving missions or battling against evil forces. This approach lends her dramas a sense of grounding and authenticity that sets them apart. What truly stands out is her ability to depict hardships, ordinary moments, and even tough times in a way that feels remarkably genuine and skillfully nuanced.

#Complex Character Development: Park Hae-young has a remarkable talent for creating characters with layers and depth. The way she depicts the main characters dealing with emotions like grief, guilt, shame, and their personal struggles is truly outstanding. These characters are not one-dimensional; they evolve and grow throughout the series, which keeps you captivated and emotionally invested in their journey.

#Capturing Life’s Everyday Rhythms: Her characters are not caught up in grand adventures or epic quests, but rather, they navigate the routines and rituals that most of us experience in our own lives. Going to work, doing household chores, and carrying out daily tasks take center stage in her dramas, bringing a sense of relatability and authenticity that is often missing in more fantastical narratives. One noteworthy element in her dramas is the choice of soundtracks that accompany these everyday moments.

#Exploring the Concept of Worship: One of the fascinating aspects of Park Hae-young’s work is her exploration of the concept of “worship.” In two of her dramas, Park Hae-young introduces the role of worship, where one character worships another. This concept adds depth and complexity to the relationships portrayed in her stories. It’s not about traditional worship but rather an intense admiration, respect, or emotional connection that goes beyond the ordinary.

Her works are filled with depth, and I feel the need to revisit them for a better understanding. While I currently rely on English subtitles to follow the story, it would be a great experience to have access to the original scripts, allowing for a deeper insight into her storytelling. Her ability to eloquently convey complex themes through words is truly remarkable, and of course, the actors’ performances play a significant role in bringing her vision to life.

It’s surprising that she’s not on social media or doing online interviews. But I’m glad there’s a Wikipedia page about her. I’m really looking forward to her future projects.

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Language is a key part of how we humans connect with each other, influencing our past and present. It’s a sophisticated dance of sounds, words, and grammar that lets us pour out our thoughts, emotions, and desires. Absolutely, language is far from static; it’s an ever-evolving and dynamic system. New words like “delulu” and “solulu” keep popping up, showing how language is constantly on the move!

It molds our perception of the world, as individuals who speak different languages may perceive and interpret aspects like color differently, demonstrating the influence of language on our worldview. Second of all, language is an essential tool for thought, enabling us to process experiences, formulate plans, solve problems, and shape our relationships, fostering understanding and connection.

Beyond these aspects, language molds social identity, political beliefs, humor, and creativity, underpinning our sense of belonging, political expression, sense of humor, and creative endeavors.

In addition to shaping our perception of the world, language also plays a unique role in human communication. This distinctiveness lies in the symbolic and generative nature of human language, setting it apart from the communication methods of animals. Ours is symbolic, empowering us to convey abstract concepts and things that aren’t physically before us.

In contrast, animals predominantly utilize their communication to relate events to the present moment. It also gives us the ability to craft new sentences and express innovative ideas, whereas animals typically rely on fixed sets of vocalizations (try whales vocals and sounds; they are so relaxing).

Across the globe, there are approximately 7,139 living languages that people use for communication. Of course, the most widely spoken is Mandarin Chinese, and although I can only recall a few Chinese words due to some binge-watching (like “对不起” for “sorry ” and “谢谢” for “thanks”), my fluency is quite limited. Shifting our focus back to India, we find a rich linguistic landscape with roughly 121 languages spoken throughout the nation.

The influence of language also extends to the digital sphere, where social media platforms have changed the way we communicate. To tell our stories, we can use text, pictures, videos, and links. Thanks to tools like hashtags, this makes it easier for us to connect with a wide range of people, including our friends, family, and even strangers. We can interact with people from various backgrounds and cultures and exchange information because it is a global phenomenon.

Also, it’s great for keeping us informed and connected globally about what’s happening in real-time, such as current events and news. According to a 2022 Statista report, English is the language of 58.8% of all internet content, followed by Russian (5.3%), Spanish (4.3%), French (3.7%), German (3.3%), and Chinese (2.8%).

Although some languages dominate internet content, the inherent limitations of language can make it difficult for us to fully express our experiences and ideas. Even though our brains are complex and we have many languages to choose from, every place is filled with content.

I recently watched a movie called “Irugapatru,” and it showed how misunderstandings can also happen when people don’t communicate well. This isn’t just about personal relationships; it’s also about having trouble expressing our thoughts in general. The limitations of language often make it challenging to express our profound emotions. I’m uncertain if the words I’ve chosen truly convey my intended message. did it?

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Belief, a fundamental aspect of human existence, possesses the ability to shape our perspectives, guide our actions, and exert significant influence over the important decisions we encounter. This potent force can spark remarkable accomplishments, transform societies, and drive individuals towards the pursuit of their dreams and goals. Across history, belief systems have played a pivotal role in molding entire civilizations and igniting revolutions that have fundamentally altered the fabric of society.

Intriguingly, belief, as a powerful force that can shape our perspectives and actions, extends beyond the broader cultural context. It can also influence our personal beliefs and behaviors. This notion became apparent to me when I reflected on my own upbringing and the strong convictions I once held about how a girl should behave.

Things like covering yourself up, not speaking too loudly, smiling but not laughing too loudly, and being gentle, subtle, and kind. These ideas have been ingrained in us since we were kids, maybe even from birth. It’s like they found a way to program these words into every part of us. People seemed to like our behavior when we followed these rules, and maybe that’s why I’m still trying to live up to them, almost like being conditioned like a dog (haha). I’m not blaming my mom or feeling sorry for her; she grew up with these expectations too.

One sunny afternoon, my mom and I ended up chatting about how cultures change over time. We couldn’t use any gadgets because there was no electricity and the Wi-Fi was down, so we decided to pass the time by having a good old-fashioned conversation. During our chat, my mom shared a story from her childhood that involved my grandmother.

My grandma really stuck to her traditions, and you could see it in the way she did things. She never wore pajamas; she always wore sarees. Plus, she followed this rule: she’d never sit directly in front of my grandpa or my dad. That came from an old belief that it’s impolite for a woman to sit that way in front of a man. Maybe because of her upbringing.

As I reflected on my grandmother’s steadfast dedication to tradition, it made me wonder about the lasting impact of these deeply rooted beliefs, not just on my own outlook but on society as a whole. This train of thought gained more depth when I stumbled upon a comedian’s amusing perspective on women’s roles. He highlighted the challenges faced by women striving for financial independence while also managing household responsibilities. It raised questions about the evolving dynamics of gender expectations, especially for women who juggle work and home life.

It feels like almost every part of me has been trained to act like a well-behaved person, being polite and gentle in my behavior. That’s the advice we’ve been given as we grew up. It got me thinking: why do the women have to carry both loads in their baskets when they have an option? isn’t a right? It’s interesting to see how it’s influenced me to ask the above. (LOL)

On the other hand, let’s set aside the gender aspect for a moment. Whether it’s work, running a business, household chores, or any challenge someone is facing, isn’t it a kinder and more humane approach to lend a helping hand instead of making fun of them?

As I laughed along with the comedian’s clever jokes, it sparked a deeper contemplation about the wider societal consequences of gender roles. This change in perspective naturally directs our attention to the important issue of women’s involvement in the workforce and the difficulties they frequently encounter when trying to manage both their careers and household duties.

The podcast with Ranveer Allahbadia and Kunal Shah, or the latest Global Fintech Meet, Kunal mentions women’s participation in the workforce and their importance in the economy, and when you look at the data, it’s clear that India lags far behind even its neighboring countries in this regard.

According to the World Bank, women’s participation in the workforce in India is around 21.1%. However, when we look at data from the Periodic Labour Force Survey (PLFS) conducted by the National Sample Survey Office (NSSO), it’s slightly higher at 32.8%. These numbers may seem different, but it’s because they use different methods to calculate the rates.

When we compare India’s women’s workforce participation to other countries, it’s lower. For example, the United States has a participation rate of 57.5%, Canada is at 59.8%, China is at 46.1%, Japan is at 45.3%, South Korea is at 51.6%, Australia is at 60.7%, Bangladesh is at 25.4%, Pakistan is at 21.4%, and Thailand is at 47.7%.

As we examine the stark disparities in workforce participation rates between countries, it becomes evident that these numbers encapsulate complex societal dynamics. Yet, it’s not just about statistics; it’s about the broader implications for gender roles and societal progress. The number of women in top leadership positions, whether as CEOs or starting their own businesses, is relatively low in India.

I’ve noticed the same thing when watching series and movies from different countries. The way women are portrayed can vary quite a bit, and it’s interesting to see those cultural differences. They have access to day care which create more opportunities, It makes you wonder about the future, especially when it comes to women’s roles in the workforce.

Encouraging more women to join the workforce isn’t straightforward because cultural expectations around marriage, appearance, and raising children often take precedence. Even women who work often do so out of financial necessity rather than personal choice.

It’s not about jinxing it, but rather about considering the changing dynamics and what that might mean for society. As we move forward in this ever-changing world, we have the ability to question, reshape, and lift each other up. By recognizing how our beliefs, whether personal or shaped by society, affect us and by being kind and working together, we can create a fairer and more caring world. Belief should set us free, not hold us back, opening doors for everyone to succeed and be happy, no matter who they are or where they come from.

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Life’s unpredictability is what makes it a fascinating journey, filled with unexpected twists and turns. As we journey through our lives, it becomes increasingly evident that not every day will be a masterpiece. Some days are just average, while others seem to be downright challenging. There are days when you yearn for the simplicity of a carefree existence, akin to a dog, a cat, or even a cow grazing peacefully on the grass. On some occasions, you find yourself simply counting down the hours, waiting for the day to come to a close.

Yet, amidst this rollercoaster of experiences, there are those days that feel like you’re floating on cloud nine, days when life seems like a captivating story, and days when you can’t help but feel proud to be part of the human race. There is no foolproof formula or crystal ball that can predict how each day will unfold. You may have preconceived notions about how it will play out, but reality often surprises us with its beauty or challenges.

I used to be incredibly naive and innocent, believing that the days ahead would always be filled with unending happiness. However, as reality sets in, you come to realize that true happiness may only grace you for a few minutes or perhaps a bit longer during the day. One of my all-time favorite KDramas, “Liberation Notes” (a slice of life), features a poignant moment when the lead character shares,

In the past, I had the impression that she wasn’t experiencing much happiness, possibly due to the challenges of her work, and I couldn’t help but find it amusing. However, with time, I came to understand that these little moments that bring us joy are the very essence of what makes each of us and our days unique.

During my journey of figuring things out, I stumbled upon something pretty cool—the way our brains work, especially with this thing called dopamine. Learning about this not only helped me make sense of why our moods can be all over the place but also why even on really hard days, there can be moments that make us unexpectedly happy.

I’m an avid listener, especially when it comes to individuals like Dr. Andrew Huberman. He’s an outstanding expert who generously shares his profound insights on a wide range of topics, including neurology, the brain, sleep, hormones, etc. I remember tuning in to one of his podcasts dedicated to the intricate world of dopamine.

When something enjoyable happens, like having a delicious meal or winning a game, your brain releases dopamine, which makes you feel happy and motivated. But here’s the catch: after this burst of happiness, your brain needs to return to its normal mood level, like a seesaw going back to a balanced position. This return to normal is what we call the “dopamine crash. It’s when you might feel a bit down or less excited after the fun experience ends.

This is entirely normal and happens because our brains are designed to maintain balance. Over time, if we have too many intense “ups” with lots of dopamine, our brain can get used to it, and we might need even more excitement to feel the same happiness. So, remember, ups and downs are a part of life, and our brains are pretty good at handling them.

After listening those podcast and reading stuff, I had a bit of a moment that explained why sometimes, after a truly shitty day (yes, the kind that makes you laugh), I end up feeling surprisingly good. It turns out our emotions are quite a puppet show, orchestrated by some brain chemicals like dopamine, serotonin, cortisol, etc. These days, I’ve ditched the habit of labeling them as “good” or “bad. Instead, I see them as just… well, days. No judgments, no labels—just days, plain and simple.

I’m wrapping up this article with a beautiful Tamil verse by Yathiri, and the highlighted word adds up to the original one.

எல்லா நாட்களுக்கும் (உறவுக்கும்) ஏதாவது பெயர் வைத்தே ஆகவேண்டுமா என்ன ? 
சும்மா விடேன். 
அதன்போக்கில் இருந்துவிட்டுப்  போகட்டும்.

-யாத்திரி  

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The word choice comes from the old French word chois, meaning selection or option. Choices are the fundamental building blocks that shape our lives, define our paths, and determine our destinies. At every juncture in life, we are confronted with choices—choices about our education, careers, relationships, beliefs, and actions. These decisions encapsulate our desires, values, fears, and aspirations, revealing our true selves to the world and, perhaps more significantly, to ourselves.

It seems like a piece of cake, right? You’ve got a bunch of options, and you just need to pick one. That’s what I used to believe, too. Choosing seems like a no-brainer because, hey, you’ve got choices. All you need to do is list the good stuff and the not-so-good stuff, and voila, you’ve made a decision. I was in that boat too, once upon a time.

Kunal Shah‘s Q&A sessions really got my brain gears turning; they were like a feast of fresh perspectives. His insights were like a breath of fresh air, shaking up my usual way of thinking. I remember one question he tackled about success (I can’t recall the exact words). What caught my attention was how he tied his answers back to the whole concept of choices. I couldn’t help but crack a smile as I read through his responses before getting back to my everyday tasks.

After that, it seemed like everywhere I looked, I started noticing how choices played a mammoth role in the whole success game, and honestly, in pretty much everything. Let me spell it out a bit.

Picture this: There’s a student who’s super keen on studying abroad. Now, there are a ton of universities spread out across different continents, all with different things to offer. So, our student has to consider things like what they want to study, where they want to live, how much it’s going to cost, if there are any scholarships, and also what’s up with family finances. Having all these choices can give them the power to pick a path that sets them on the right track towards their goals.

The job market works the same way. For someone on the hunt for a job, having lots of choices in terms of what they could do, where they could work, and how much they could make can be a real game-changer. They can think about things like salary, benefits, how they’ll fit into the company vibe, and where they could go from there before they decide.

But here’s the twist: not everyone has this luxury of tons of choices. Some folks might be stuck in situations where they can’t see all those options clearly—maybe because of money stuff, not getting the right information, or other roadblocks. So, you see, not everyone’s playing on the same field when it comes to choosing.

Alright, let’s dive into another scenario: credit cards. Back in the day, I was all like, “No way, credit cards mean debt. But boy, was I in for a surprise. Once you peel back the layers and check out all those perks and cool stuff you can get with these cards, it’s like stepping into a whole new world.

But hold up a sec. Not everyone has the same ticket to this credit card party, especially here in India. It’s not like everyone can just waltz in and grab a credit card with all those perks. Nah, it’s a bit more complicated than that.

You see, getting your hands on one of these cards means you’ve got to have a solid credit score, a steady paycheck, and some proper proof of your income tax returns. It’s like this secret code that says, Hey, I’m financially responsible enough to handle this. (Lol)

You got it, the same dance happens when it comes to building wealth. These choices? Speaking of which, there’s this incredible podcast episode in the “Diary of a CEO” series, featuring a professor named Scott Galloway. Specifically, he shed light on how a scarcity of potential female partners can alter the game.

Having lots of choices lets us really think things through, which helps us chase our dreams. But here’s the thing: not everyone gets the same chances, which makes success uneven. Whether it’s about school or jobs, each choice matters a lot. And we need to remember that not everyone has the same pile of choices to pick from.

But the cool part? We can help level the playing field by creating equal opportunities and understanding each other’s journeys. By doing that, we’re not just shaping our own success but also making the road smoother for everyone else aiming for their dreams. So, let’s remember that not only do we choose our paths, but we also have the power to create choices for those who might not have them readily available.

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In the peaceful countryside, where nature shares its secrets in soft whispers and leaves hold stories yet to be told, lives our main character, Noah. In this place of open fields and green meadows that bring a sense of calm, a story unfolds that’s far from usual. Noah’s life, which might seem as peaceful as a painting, is actually a vibrant tapestry woven with connections – to her mom and dad, to her friends who are practically like family, and to the rhythm of life itself.

But you know what? Underneath her happy appearance, there’s this ongoing feeling of comparing herself to others. Her parents, who mean well, tend to measure her against the other kids around her. It’s like they look at everything she does—how she acts and even her school grades—and compare them to some unseen rules they have.

In a way, without realizing it, Noah gets caught up in comparing herself. She believes that to improve, she needs to do better than everyone else. So she gets all serious about it and starts trying to do even better than before. Time passes, and her efforts start to show results. Her school grades go up, she acts really well, and people keep praising her. She feels really happy and accomplished, like she’s at the top of her game.

On a special day, Noah’s hometown was buzzing with excitement because her favorite idol was coming to town for a big event. It was like fate played a role in making their paths cross. They got to talk for a little while, and that conversation turned out to be a big deal. It changed the way Noah saw things.

While they were talking, Noah suddenly realized something important. She felt like a different person while conversing. She understood that there was a big difference between the person she wanted to be and the person she was right now. This talk was like a mirror, showing Noah how different she was from the person she looked up to. It wasn’t a bad thing; it was more like a bulb moment for her.

Once the event ended and her idol went away, Noah couldn’t stop thinking about their talk. It was like the words they exchanged stuck in her mind, a gentle murmur in her thoughts. She started noticing a distinct quality in her idol that she didn’t see in her friends or family or in the surrounding. This set off a kind of conflict in her mind—two different ways of thinking were wrestling inside her.

On one side, she grew up with the idea that she needed to always compare herself, compete with others, and try to be better than them. On the other side, there was this thought of focusing on herself and working on her behavior and thoughts to become a better person from the inside out. It’s like two different paths were calling her, and she was caught in between.

When Noah checks herself out in the mirror, it’s like she’s seeing herself in a new light. Instead of feeling down about the differences she noticed, she started seeing them as chances to learn and improve. She starts reading, listening, thinking, and talking to different people, finding her own way through the maze of understanding life.

The struggle between “Me vs. Me” isn’t just about comparing herself to others. It’s like those small moments that come out of nowhere—a line from a book, something someone says as they walk by—suddenly become important to her.

Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom

Aristotle

She attempted to ponder over who she really was, but nothing seemed to come to the forefront of her thoughts. This realization hits her like a strong note in a song, echoing through her whole self. It’s not about trying to be better than others or reaching impossible goals. It’s about seeing her unique journey, mixing her dreams and who she really is. She grasped the idea that uncovering her authentic self was essential before she could fully evolve into her true identity.

As Noah’s journey reaches its conclusion, a newfound sense of knowing herself shines through every step she takes. Her life, once colored by comparing herself to others and feeling unsure, now shines with the colors of being true to who she really is. Just like the seasons change in the countryside, Noah changes too, guided by her own dreams and hopes.

As the sun goes down, Noah steps forward, feeling the rhythm of her own special song. A song that keeps playing as she discovers more. In the end, Noah’s adventure teaches us something timeless: being real and understanding ourselves is what really makes us grow, much more than trying to be better than someone else. Imagine a song where the verses are written not to compare, but to blend with our unique personalities.

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Modern technology has undeniably transformed our lives, easing the burden of household chores with washing machines, dishwashers, and robotic vacuum cleaners. Moreover, the tremendous rise of e-commerce and speedy delivery services has unlocked even more time-saving possibilities (often we are into that 6-inch screen only).

With the convenience of ordering anything we need, the process is a breeze. Forgot garlic? Order it. Ran out of detergent? Place an order. Feeling hungry? Spice things up with some mouthwatering dishes or treat yourself to a delightful dessert. The possibilities are endless, and everything arrives promptly at our doorstep, sometimes within mere hours.

After all our shopping sprees, we end up with a mountain of the dreaded brown bags and cardboard boxes piling up in the corner. If you are from Asia, all those would be packed inside a big brown bag and lying in the store room or in the cupboard for an uncertain situation. They’ve earned some serious acclaim for being biodegradable, which means they break down naturally without messing up our planet. Way better than those pesky single-use plastic bags Right!.

Yet, it is important to note that not all brown paper bags are created equal. Some brown paper bags are made from virgin trees, while others are made from recycled paper. While this does raise concerns about deforestation and its impact on ecosystems, The process of making brown bags or cardboard involves various steps, including material selection, pulping, papermaking, adding strength and brown color, cutting and printing, folding and gluing, quality control, and packaging. We consider them eco-friendly and it depends on various factors.

#Eco-Friendly Materials: Many brown bags are crafted using recycled materials, significantly reducing the demand for new resources and lessening the environmental impact of their production.

#Biodegradable Nature: Brown bags boast impressive biodegradability, breaking down naturally over time without leaving harmful residues or microplastics behind, contributing to a cleaner environment.

#Sustainable Reusability: Some brown bags are thoughtfully designed for multiple uses, making them an eco-conscious choice. Additionally, paper bags can be efficiently recycled, minimizing waste sent to landfills.

#Reduced Carbon Footprint: Compared to plastic bags, the manufacturing process of paper bags generally results in a lower carbon footprint.

#Litter Reduction: The use of brown bags can help us reduce litter compared to plastic bags.

Brown bags are all about that eco-friendly vibe, but a recent concern surfaced when I stumbled upon a video (I can’t remember where exactly) comparing two individuals, let’s call them X and Y. Here’s the deal: X eats daily from parcels packed in brown bags and tosses them in the dustbin. Meanwhile, the video also shows how those brown bags are made. On the flip side, Y opts for plates, washes them, and reuses them every day.

Amid the rising awareness of environmental concerns, we’re on the lookout for sustainable solutions in our daily routines. One such trend gaining traction is ditching single-use brown bags in favor of reusable cloth bags. Certain establishments kindly request customers to bring their own bags, a practice that is greatly appreciated and acknowledged for its eco-conscious approach.

Let me tell you about this gem called “Manjai Pai,” a traditional Tamil reusable bag crafted from coarse cotton fabric. These bags sport a distinct yellow hue and a unique weave pattern. While carrying them everywhere might not be feasible, we can totally rock them on grocery runs, dress shopping, and when receiving parcels.

Switching from brown bags to cloth bags marks a positive stride towards a more sustainable future. Embracing cloth bags may seem like a small change, but it wields significant power in fostering a healthier planet. It’s high time we collectively jump on the cloth bag bandwagon, steering ourselves towards a greener and more eco-conscious lifestyle for us and the generations to come. Let’s do this!

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At present, I am engrossed in the compelling book “The Myth of Normal” penned by the renowned Gabor Maté. It’s a weighty tome indeed. As I have previously discussed in my blog posts, I actively follow Maté on various platforms, and his insights have been invaluable. The book delves deep into the profound impact of traumas on chronic diseases, including multiple sclerosis, cancer, and cardiovascular disease. Maté shares the experiences of his patients, shedding light on the underlying reasons behind their addictions. Towards the conclusion, he eloquently highlights the vital role that human connections, compassion, and self-care play in the journey of healing.

One particular aspect that surprised me: the insatiable longing for human connections. It struck me how we often present ourselves as strong, independent individuals, yearning for a peaceful haven with a serene backyard, free from any disturbances. However, deep down, we possess an inherent craving for connections that goes beyond our self-imposed image. May be due to,

#Survival and protection: Throughout history, we, humans have relied on social groups to fend off external threats and secure essential resources. In essence, our interconnectedness has ensured our safety and well-being.

#Emotional well-being: Despite our desire for self-sufficiency, we are emotional beings who thrive on meaningful interactions. Building connections allows us to share our experiences, express our feelings, and receive the much-needed emotional support. Being understood, validated, and loved bolsters our happiness and mental health.

#Sense of belonging: We possess an inherent desire to be part of a community, to find our place within society. It is through connections that we establish relationships and bonds that provide us with identity, purpose, and a feeling of significance.

#Learning and growth: When we engage with others, we have the opportunity to exchange knowledge, ideas, and perspectives. Through these interactions, we expand our horizons, acquire new skills, gain insights, and adapt to changing circumstances. Connections propel us forward on the path of personal development.

#Psychological needs: Psychologist Abraham Maslow identified belongingness and love as essential human needs in his hierarchy. Forming connections allows us to fulfill these needs, promoting self-esteem, self-worth, and self-actualization.

#Empathy and social support: As we forge relationships and bonds, we develop the ability to understand and share the emotions, experiences, and perspectives of others. This empathy nurtures compassion and altruism, making us more inclined to provide assistance, guidance, and care to those with whom we are connected.

#Stress reduction and increased resilience: Research shows that social connections serve as a buffer against stress and contribute to our overall resilience. During challenging times, having a support system can alleviate the burden and provide comfort. Sharing our struggles and receiving emotional support helps us cope better and promotes our mental and physical well-being.

Upon reflecting on these points, it becomes evident that they carry substantial weight, although their relevance may vary from person to person. Deep down, there exists a fundamental desire within us to be seen, heard, acknowledged, and validated. Interestingly, the book suggests that this yearning often originates during childhood. Unresolved traumas from our early years can resurface and manifest as chronic diseases later in life.

While my thoughts meandered through my mind, I stumbled upon another intriguing post from Adam Grant, the esteemed author of “Think Again, Originals, and etc.” Allow me to share the post with you.

https://www.instagram.com/p/Cuzw8NpP5lx/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link&igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==

The post was based on a fascinating article published in Nature. The findings were quite remarkable. It turns out that there’s a strong connection between social isolation, loneliness, and mortality, especially among older adults and those with chronic diseases. These results indicate that social isolation and loneliness are significant risk factors for mortality. The good news is that taking steps to reduce social isolation and loneliness could have a meaningful impact on public health.

The absence of human connections can result in consequences that reach beyond our physical well-being. It affects various aspects of our lives, including our mental and emotional health. Some of them are,

#Decreased mental stimulation: When we interact with others, we have opportunities for mental engagement and cognitive challenges. If we lack connections, we miss out on intellectually stimulating conversations, the chance to learn from different perspectives, and the ability to broaden our horizons. As a result, we may experience a decline in cognitive abilities and a sense of stagnation.

#Hindered personal growth: When we interact with others, we have valuable avenues for growth and development. Through these interactions, we receive feedback, acquire new skills, gain insights, and expand our knowledge. If we do not have sufficient connections, the opportunities for personal growth may be limited, impeding our potential and fulfillment.

#Impaired social skills: Regular social interactions help us develop and hone social skills, such as empathy, communication, and conflict resolution. If we are devoid of connections, we may struggle with forming and maintaining relationships, further perpetuating feelings of isolation and loneliness. This can create a cycle that hampers social skills and exacerbates the sense of being disconnected from others.

It’s clear that human connections have a huge impact on our well-being. It’s not just about physical health; it affects our mental and emotional lives too. We are social creatures by nature, and our longing for connection is deeply rooted in our biology and psychology. When we lack connections, we miss out on mental stimulation, personal growth, and social skills. So let’s remember the importance of connections and make an effort to build meaningful relationships for a happier, healthier life. Let’s prioritize and cherish our connections.

Cheers!

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Last week was totally crazy. My mind was all over the place, and I needed something to chill out with IG. Usually, the algorithms shows more reels like the ones you’ve liked and more likely to enjoy. It was reels of whales and dolphins jumping, coming to the shore for a breath, interacting with humans etc. While I was mindlessly scrolling, I stumbled upon this heartwarming reel (check it out below). Those creatures are pure therapy! But here’s the thing: I wasn’t sure what kind of whale it was or where it was from. So, I did some internet detective work and discovered they’re kind of like humans but living their best lives in the aquatic world.

The orca, scientifically known as Orcinus orca, belongs to the dolphin family and is renowned for its striking black and white coloration. These awesome creatures can be found in all the world’s oceans, chilling in tightly knit family squads called pods. Each pod exhibits unique communication patterns and behaviors. Unbelievable but true, these pods can journey a mind-blowing 100 miles in a day, all to keep up with their food during its migration.

There are two primary types of orca pods: resident and transient. Resident pods are like big family groups with strong lifelong bonds. A typical unit within a resident pod includes the mother whale, her dependent offspring (usually ten years old or younger), and adult offspring. Male orcas are known to remain with their mothers throughout their lives, temporarily leaving only to mate before returning to their family pod. Resident pods love their fishy meals, like salmon, herring, and rockfish. They all pitch in to locate and catch schools of fish, like a well-coordinated squad.

On the flip side, transients are made up of smaller family groups and frequently travel up to 100 miles while hunting for food. Their diet is all about meat; they feast on seals, sea lions, and other whales. Male orcas in the wild generally have an average lifespan of about 30 years, while female orcas typically live for approximately 50 years.

Besides looking totally majestic, these ocean creatures have brains that are seriously impressive, giving even us humans a run for our money. These brainiacs know how to plan out their hunting missions, navigate through huge stretches of ocean, and interact socially in intricate ways. It’s wild to think that some scientists actually believe these killer whales might be the second smartest beings on the planet, right after us humans. Let’s explore some.

#Language

They have a very sophisticated language with a mix of clicks, whistles, pulsed calls, and all sorts of unique sounds. Every orca pod has its own exclusive set of vocalizations, commonly referred to as dialects. These dialects are passed down through generations, ensuring the formation and survival of distinct orca social groups. Along with that, even their hunting techniques, cultural behavior, and dietary preferences are also inherited within the communities.

#Brain Size

Killer whales possess impressively large brains, with an average brain size of about 6,000 cubic centimeters, which is almost double the size of the average human brain. This size difference is significant when considering that brain size is often associated with higher cognitive abilities. Another cool thing is that, just like us humans, killer whales have a well-developed neocortex. That’s the part of the brain responsible for all the thinking, emotion, and social cognition stuff.

#Global Distribution

They are the globetrotters and kings of adaptability in the underwater world. They can be found in almost every ocean except the Arctic. Some residents stick to the coastal areas, while others (transients) are like wanderers, covering larger territories. They are incredibly fast swimmers, reaching speeds of up to 55.5 km/hr and having the ability to make sharp turns and navigate through complex environments with precision.

#Wave wash

Orcas have a significant impact on their ecosystems as they actively shape their environment. These clever creatures create some serious waves when they swim in shallow waters. Those waves shake the seals right off their cozy ice floes, making them easy targets for the hungry orcas. As they age, older females play a crucial role in their pod’s survival. They pass on their wisdom, show the ropes to the young ones, and make sure everyone knows where to find good food.

#Unihemispheric Sleep

Orcas have a unique sleeping pattern that differs from humans. They can’t just switch off and go into automatic sleep mode like us. They have to actively decide when to take a breath. To overcome this challenge, orcas employ a remarkable adaptation called unihemispheric sleep. They allow only one half of their brains to sleep at a time, while the other half remains alert. This enables them to continue breathing and stay vigilant for potential dangers in their environment. When they sleep, orcas close one eye, corresponding to the side of the brain that is awake. By alternating which side of the brain is asleep, orcas can obtain the rest they need without ever losing consciousness. During sleep, they swim slowly and steadily, typically near the water’s surface.

#Longeity

Orcas live some seriously long lives, with some hanging around for a whopping 90 years or even more. What’s even more intriguing is that female orcas experience menopause, a rarity in the animal kingdom. But, when kept in captivity, such as in aquariums or marine parks, the life span of orcas can be significantly impacted.

To sum it up, oorcas truly captivate our hearts with their intelligence, unique social structures, and remarkable adaptations. However, as we’ve explored, the captivity of these magnificent creatures poses significant challenges. Just like humans, orcas thrive in their natural environment, where they can exhibit their full potential and live long, fulfilling lives. It is crucial that we prioritize their well-being and ensure their freedom for generations to come. Let us strive to be guardians of their world, honoring their inherent rights and celebrating the wonders of their existence.

Cheers!

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