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While organizing my inbox, I encountered a quote about the past’s uncertainty compared to the future, prompting me to reflect on how my perceptions of past events change over time.

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Today, while clearing out my inbox, I used keyboard shortcuts to sift through unread emails quickly. I skimmed each one, moving important messages to labeled folders (love to give colors), archiving those that weren’t, and moving to the next.

In the middle of this routine, I came across a quote in Morgan Housel’s Collab Fund newsletter that grabbed my attention. It was titled A Message from the Past. Curiosity got the best of me, so I opened it, but since I was in a rush, I only read the first few lines before closing it and returned to my inbox to cleanup.

However, the quote kept echoing in my mind:

The past is more uncertain than the future!

It was written by Russian poet Yevgeny Yevtushenko, tho I wasn’t sure. We often think of the future as unpredictable, full of surprises, and hear advice like “Don’t live in the future! Future is unpredictable! You never know what’s going to happen.” This quote seemed to suggest the opposite, leaving me a bit confused.

Eventually, I went back to the email again and read it in full, as well as a few others, and found the idea fascinating. I could really relate to it. Every time I think about my past right from childhood moments to events as recent as yesterday, I notice my understanding of these events shifts.

Let’s say something happened in 2006, my version of it in 2012, 2018, 2020, and now would each be different. It is actually. With my experiences, understanding and perspectives over a period of time, and when I look back, it’s like seeing things with a new lens.

That’s why, in a way, the past does feel uncertain pola!

What are your thoughts?

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Meiyazhagan (2024) Movie Review

“Meiyazhagan” offers a fresh perspective on relationships and emotions, showcasing genuine connections and vulnerability, contrasted against today’s action-oriented films. It resonates deeply.

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I really wanted to watch “Meiyazhagan” on birthday. It reminded me of watching 96 in Trichy on same day, though that plan didn’t work out. Pakka Flop! Finally, the movie came out on Netflix, and I watched it with my family.

Everyone at home was drawn into the story. Maybe it was because of how beautifully it showed relationships and family bonds. The story is full of pure emotions of innocence, care, and affection. Yes, there are some bitter moments and difficult people, but that’s life. This movie felt different to me from others. Today’s movies often portray violence, but Meiyazhagan shows vulnerability and the softer side of men. It was refreshing to watch two men having heartfelt conversations. It left me feeling good and warm.

Karthi and Arvind Swamy (playing Meiyazhagan and Arul) shared the spotlight perfectly. They helped each other find their true selves. Karthi looked up to Arvind Swamy as a role model, learning from him without Arvind even knowing. Even, the bicycle became a symbol of their connection and how it changed Karthi’s life.

When Arvind Swamy moved to Chennai, he seemed to lose himself in city life. You can spot few things where he always wears watches in early scenes, but stops wearing them, people telling him to be gentle. He wears his father’s and yet he miss it again while leaving for Chennai. Giving a wrong number to him and so. Once Karthi showers him with love, he struggles to accept. Guilty? Not sure tho. He tries to flee. He picks up Karthi’s slipper while running (he adores it, actually).

Karthi helps him rediscover himself by having such deeper conversations. The emotional scenes hit hard – like when Arvind Swamy breaks down because he can’t remember Karthi, or when Karthi realizes his hero doesn’t know him. Their tears felt real. It makes you wonder, do men have conversations this heartfelt in reality?

Few more scenes, I loved. The way Arul and Azhagan is having conservation with their wife’s. He was happy seeing her wife talking English. So much of innocence and love.

The other characters add richness to the story. Both men’s wives, sister Bhavani, Latha, his father, uncle and his daughter. Even the animals play a special role in this movie. The cats and parrots in the city, bulls, elephants and snakes in the village. The animal ecosystem wasn’t disturbed. Finally, he request for an archanai at the temple on his name.

Meiyazhagan really shows how an innocent, kind person can impact and touch others’ lives. Even the word “Athaan”, which might seem old-fashioned today, feels natural, pleasing and beautiful here. While some characters show toxic behavior (tho, it was not covered in the movie), the movie balances it with wonderful family relationships.

If you’re looking for dramatic twists or action, this isn’t your movie. But if you want to see slow paced warm ones, you might like this one! Available in Netflix!

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Three of us (2022) Movie Review

Three of Us explores Shailaja’s emotional journey through early dementia, reconnecting with past friendships, and learning to let go while reclaiming lost memories.

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After being immersed in the intense drama of Succession, I felt the need for a change and decided to watch Three of Us. Some compared it to Past Lives, but they feel like two different worlds. Three of Us is a delicate, emotional journey about reclaiming lost time while learning to let go. It’s a story of three intertwined lives: Shailaja Desai, her husband Dipankar Desai, and her childhood friend (Crush perhaps), Pradeep.

Shailaja, the main character, is in the early stages of dementia. She works, possibly in handling divorce cases in Mumbai, while her husband sells insurance. At the start, she struggles with her memory, writing down everything she forgets. One night, she asks her husband to take time off and go with her to Konkan, where she reveals she spent her childhood.

In Konkan, Pradeep enters the scene, Shailaja’s old friend and now a banker. As they reconnect, layers of the story begin to unfold.

  • In the beginning, Shailaja is portrayed as lost, almost disconnected from herself. As the movie progresses, we witness her slowly coming alive again, her memories breathing life back into her.
  • There’s a poignant conflict within her—while she clings to the happy memories of her childhood, she desperately wants to forget the painful ones. A mysterious woman in a hut becomes the symbol of her emotional release, allowing her to confront her hidden burdens.
  • Her interactions with old friends show glimpses of her former self. She remembers more than we’d expect from someone battling dementia, adding complexity to her character.
  • Her graceful Bharatanatyam dance is one of the most touching scenes. It’s a moment of beauty, yet she hides her lapses, especially in front of Pradeep, not wanting him to see her vulnerability.
  • Dipankar, her husband, is loving and patient, though his possessiveness subtly creeps in when Shailaja spends time with Pradeep. The way he takes care of her is good, but not quite on the level of Ganapathy uncle and Bhavani aunty in OK Kanmani. There’s a quiet tension as both men realize they each know different sides of her. Despite the unspoken rivalry, they share a mutual understanding.
  • Pradeep fits into the story naturally. He doesn’t feel like an outsider, even though he wonders why Shailaja has come back into his life after so many years. He is curious but gentle, wanting to spend time with her.
  • Pradeep’s wife, though she doesn’t appear much, plays an important role. She shows a mix of care and admiration for Pradeep’s writing, but also a bit of jealousy, especially when it comes to his time with Shailaja.

The ending ties everything together nicely. The film is about reliving the past while also learning to let it go. If you enjoy emotional stories with deep, meaningful characters, Three of Us is worth watching. Give it try!. Available in Netflix.

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Expectations

The author reflects on expectations and the separation of tasks, emphasizing the importance of individual responsibility and self-acceptance while trusting others to manage their own duties.

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I’ve been preoccupied with both work and thoughts, which kept me from writing. Apologies. But one idea has been running through my mind for the past week: expectation. It’s a small word, yet it carries a huge weight.

Recently, I’ve been reading about some fascinating concepts—terms like separation of tasks, vertical and horizontal relationships, self-acceptance, and confidence in others. I haven’t finished that book yet. I don’t want to dive deep into these theories right now, but one particular idea stood out to me: separation of tasks.

This idea revolves around the notion that whatever you need to do in life is your responsibility, and no one else can do it for you. Sure, people can assist you, encourage, or guide you, but at the end of the day, the task is yours alone. Everyone has their life tasks. It’s up to you to complete it. Philosophers often say that life moves forward without expectations, that humans merely exist, and we shouldn’t burden ourselves with the expectations of others. But, let’s be honest, expectations are everywhere.

Parents have expectations of their children. Teachers have them for their students. Bosses expect results from employees, and partners expect support or time from each other. These expectations could be about something material, about effort, or simply about showing up when needed. No one escapes them.

What really got me thinking was how this separation of tasks could change the way we handle expectations. The idea is that when you focus on your own tasks and trust others to handle theirs, the weight of expectations could reduce to an extent. You aren’t constantly worrying about meeting someone else’s expectations, and you’re not trying to do someone else’s job either. It frees you, in a way or the other.

But here’s the catch—this only works if you can accept yourself as you are, do what’s expected of you, and trust others to handle their own lives. That means having confidence in others and in you. It sounds simple, but how many of us actually trust ourselves and others that they will do theirs without stepping in to “help” or manage?

I find this concept interesting. But is it realistic? I’m not sure if I can fully follow this approach completely, but it’s definitely something I want to reflect on more. Maybe the key to handling expectations lies in accepting yourself, doing your own part, and trusting that others will do theirs. Hope! But it did sounds weird when someone says, I have no expectations! Lol. I need to reflect!

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#DecodeAgri10: Hidden workload of rural women!

The excerpt highlights the struggles of rural women in India, balancing domestic duties and low-wage employment while sacrificing their health.

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I was speaking to an old friend yesterday, and she stressed the importance of exercise and self-health being just as vital as others’s health. This morning, as I was doing some stretches and walking with my dad, I noticed that my mother was in the kitchen cooking breakfast. 

While she does go for a walk in the evening, she is always quite occupied in the morning. It struck me that she is sacrificing her health to make sure we have food. This thought kept me occupied for a while. Why questions arose. Later, I attended a webinar on rural women. The webinar exposed me to issues that are often unidentified or not discussed enough.

In India, including rural areas, women’s participation in the workforce is significant, but as I learned from the webinar, the actual returns for their work are very low. I don’t have the exact data, but it’s clear that their efforts don’t translate into fair wages. In fact, their daily wage rates are often lower than the cost of a healthy diet. This economic imbalance makes it hard for them to sustain themselves. Then, where can they invest in their health or personal growth? 

Moreover, the issue of unemployment or underemployment for rural women is a major concern. In rural areas, women mainly work in agriculture, but as farms become more mechanized and seasonable, there are fewer jobs available throughout the year. With fewer agricultural jobs, women have fewer opportunities to earn money and improve their living standards. Even when women do participate in paid labor, the wages are so low that it hardly makes a difference in their financial independence.

This situation reminds me of something I heard in a podcast with Kunal Shah. He mentioned that in China, there’s a strong focus on healthcare that helps reduce the workload on women. China has developed systems that ensure women don’t have to carry the full burden of domestic duties and childcare. Partnership model; let’s explore this later. 

Women are also seen as essential contributors to the household’s economic health, and cultural expectations push them toward both work and family duties equally. As a result, rural women in China have higher participation in the workforce, along with better healthcare systems to support their needs. I even recall an audience member from a Western country suggesting something similar during a discussion.

Here, the problem is more deeply rooted. Women’s role in the household is seen as primary, and their work outside the home is secondary. This mindset, combined with low wages and poor job opportunities, keeps many rural women out of formal employment. But can Indian mothers trust others to help raise their children? LOL, NO. Guilt trapping, societal pressure and more. 

As I mentioned earlier, my own mother sacrifices her morning time for us, and that’s just one example. In many rural households, women spend hours preparing traditional foods, which often involve time-consuming tasks like soaking grains or grinding spices. While I’ve spoken in favor of sustainable agriculture and crops like millets (written blogs on the same), these traditional foods often take longer to prepare. This adds to women’s domestic burden, making it harder for them to find time for exercise or focus on their health.

The problem exists even at the grassroots level. Rural women are caught between their domestic responsibilities and the need to work for low wages. The result is a cycle where women sacrifice their health, time, and potential for the family, without enough support or recognition.

There is a need for both policy changes and a shift in cultural norms. We need better infrastructure, healthcare, and employment opportunities that value women’s work, both inside and outside the home. As someone who speaks high of sustainable agriculture and climate change awareness, I see the potential for change if we can also recognize the time-consuming nature of tasks and how they burden women.

I feel a mix of emotions. They need thoughtful consideration and different approaches. I’m still working through these ideas and hope to find clearer solutions in the future. In the meantime, I thought to write about it. Just raising awareness about the struggles rural women face and the importance of recognizing their value, both at home and in the workforce.

Happy International Day of Rural Women!

Amazing photos of rural women are taken by Sebastião Salgado. Please check them out!

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Nobody Wants This: Review

“Nobody Wants This” impresses with thoughtful writing, character vulnerabilities, personal growth, and meaningful communication. Highly recommended!

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I recently watched a show called Nobody wants this. It was recommended to me, and I must say, it surprised me in the best way. At first, I thought it would be just another rom-com, but this one truly stands out. While it’s obviously fictional, the writing feels thoughtful, especially in how the characters speak—particularly the two leads.

The story revolves around a woman searching for a healthy relationship after a string of failed dates. On the other hand, the male lead is a rabbi who has just ended an engagement. Without giving too much away, there were several things that really impressed me.

For one, the characters, including the families, are all vulnerable. Everyone has their flaws and hidden struggles. The open communication between the couple throughout the story is refreshing to see, especially in a rom-com.

Another highlight is how both characters experience personal growth and change. You get to see how the reasons things didn’t work out with Rebecca are different from why things do work with Joanne. The role of family politics is also well-explored, showing how the pressure to “put on a show” to please families can create complications.

One line that really stood out to me was, “I can handle you.” It was simple but carried so much weight in the moment.

OMG, a special appreciation to the writer for crafting such a thoughtful and meaningful scripts. The way the characters’ emotions and vulnerabilities were portrayed felt very real.

I was a bit skeptical when she talked about converting, but the ending wrapped up beautifully. I won’t spoil anything, but it’s definitely worth a watch. Give it a try! Available in Netflix ! In part 2, I liked Shasha more.

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Praise/Rebuke!

The book “The Courage to Be Disliked” discusses Adlerian philosophy, emphasizing encouragement over praise or rebuke, which can manipulate our sense of freedom.

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I’ve been reading a book for over a month now, but I still haven’t finished it. Maybe it’s because there’s a lot to absorb. There are many interesting chapters, but one thing that stayed with me is this. Don’t praise or rebuke, just focus on encouragement.

The book is called The Courage to Be Disliked, and it’s written by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga. It’s a conversation between a young man and a philosopher, discussing Adlerian philosophy. There are many thought-provoking ideas, but the chapter “To live in earnest in the here and now” was especially hard to understand and accept. I’m still trying to adjust to it.

The philosopher says we shouldn’t praise or rebuke others. The young man argues that praise gives us confidence to face challenges, even life tasks. But the philosopher explains that praise is based on someone’s idea of what’s good or bad. When someone praises you as “good,” it means you’re being measured by their standards, which limits your freedom.

If receiving praise is what one is after, one will have no choice but to adapt to that person’s yardstick and put the brakes on one’s own freedom.

The idea here is that praise can manipulate people into fitting into a vertical hierarchy in relationships. An example given is how parents praise their children for good behavior. Now, think of this “good girl syndrome.” We are adjust ourselves to get the tag or label of good girl. The authenticity is lost/limited. Then it all made sense to me, but I’m still unsure if all praise leads to a hierarchy or if it’s always manipulative. These thoughts keep spinning in my mind. Yet, it gives a kind of awareness that it could be manipulative too.

The book could have explained more about why not rebuke and it isn’t stressed, but it does suggest an alternative to praising, “Encouragement”. At first, it might seem confusing, but the more you think about it, the clearer it becomes.

Maybe to avoid this, we could use a simple trick. When someone praises us, just say எல்லா புகழும் இறைவன் ஒருவனுக்கே (All praise belongs to God alone)! and move on. And when rebuked, we can simply say, Let me think about it, and move on. This reminds me of This too shall pass story But never let yourself fall!

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CTRL (2024) Movie Review

CTRL explores privacy themes through a couple’s online life, revealing secrets and consequences that arise from digital exposure, ultimately urging awareness of privacy issues.

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I watched CTRL (Hindi, Indian based) yesterday, after a few recommendations. I should have stuck with my own watchlist (lol). The movie was about raising awareness on privacy settings and social media platforms. Good one tho! The story follows a couple bloggers on social media. The initial story part of plot shows them being happy, exploring places and brands. Showing a perfect couple picture.

Later, the girl finds out the guy is cheating after a tech meetup. Since they are public figures, the news spreads quickly. To delete his digital presence, she uses an AI tool called ctrl.ai. This AI seems talkative and has access to her microphone and video. It also monitors her activities, schedules and more. The AI even gives her tips and helps her regain popularity through brand advertising. She gets used to talking to it.

The ex-boyfriend tries to contact her with something secret, but he’s murdered. When she tries to find the reason, there is something big. He had been trying to spread awareness about privacy policies and how company influence our choices and collects our data. Though, she has evidence, the blame falls on her. The girl feels powerless and withdraws from the fight against the powerful one.

In the end, she gets back back to her dad’s business. To avoid loneliness, she starts talking to the AI again. The movie has a strong message about privacy. How addictive these are. The visuals and interface were stunning. However, the way it’s shown through app interfaces might make it hard for some viewers to follow. The transitions between apps can be confusing.

Overall, CTRL raises awareness, but it’s best suited for viewers with a medium level of understanding about privacy. Privacy is a key theme here, much like in the Korean movie Unlocked also highlights the dark sides of it. Give them a try. Both are available in Netflix.

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PS: AI? Totally not addictive…? Yup, sure! 😜

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#Agri09: Neelakurinji!

The Neelakurinji flower, blooming every twelve years, holds ecological and cultural significance, especially in Tamil literature, while facing climate change threats.

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Last week was fun but it was like a learning session. I heard of this Kurinji flower but haven’t witnessed it. It is called Kurinji or Neelakurinji (Strobilanthes kunthiana) , found along the Western Ghats of India. It is a shrub, grown mostly on the grasslands. They bloom once in twelve years. Once they bloom, you see a burst of blue (kind of of purplish tint) across the mountains. The bloom of Neelakurinji is more than just a visual spectacle but it holds deep ecological and cultural significance, especially in Tamil literature and history.

#Tamil Literature

Neelakurinji has deep roots in Tamil culture and literature. During the Sangam period, the landscape was classified into five regions (known as Thinai)—Kurinji (mountains), Mullai (forests), Marutham (agricultural lands), Neithal (coastal areas), and Palai (desert). Maybe named because of the flower. I still remember studying the table which these different landscapes and its characteristic for my Tamil exam. These flower is not just a part of nature but a symbol of their heritage too.

As we know the bloom cycle of the Neelakurinji happens once every 12 years, it was sometimes used as a reference for measure time and age. The ancient community people (Paliyan tribal people) living near the Western Ghats used the flowering to calculate their ages. For example, people would say, “I have seen three Neelakurinji blooms,” meaning they are approximately 36 years old. Interesting isn’t it? I believe, those people would’ve way happier than us. No clocks, No calender, No meetings! Simple life! Lol!

#Honey Bees

The place was very clam and you would be able hear those buzzing bee sound echoing acroos the mountains. There were so much of bees. These flowers provide an abundance of nectar. The bees are drawn to the nectar and help with pollination. In return, honey bees benefit from the rich food source, producing honey during this time. This interaction also supports the broader ecosystem and helps the survival of the other species. However, if the blooming doesn’t happen as expected due to climate or environmental changes, it can affect bee population, honey production and the many species that rely on them. Most the flowerings gets delayed .

#Different Bloom Cycles

While Neelakurinji blooms every twelve years, another species of Kurinji (Strobilanthes callosa) flowers once every eighth years. The first seven years dryness followed by flowering in eighth year. Sea of lavender blush. This shows how different species of the plant have adapted to different cycles. Who knows, some might have hundred? These mass blooms create a surge of nectar and pollen, supporting honey bees, insects and animals.

#Grasslands and Ecosystem

The grasslands around Neelakurinji are also important. These grasslands help prevent soil erosion and provide food for grazing animals. The plants and shrubs in this ecosystem helps to absorb water and prevent landslides, especially on the steep hills of the Western Ghats. The connection between Neelakurinji and the grasslands creates a balance that supports life in the region. However, both are under threat from human activities like deforestation, construction and many more.

#Climate Change

Climate change poses a serious threat to Neelakurinji. The plant’s blooming cycle is closely tied to rainfall and temperature, and changing weather patterns can delay or disrupt the bloom. Over time, this could reduce the frequency of these blooms, harming the entire ecosystem. It is the connections that exist in nature, where plants, bees, grasslands, and even the climate work together to maintain balance. I am reminded of a line from a song!

உலகத்தில் எதுவும்… தனிச்சு இல்லையே…!

#Conservation Efforts

Today, Neelakurinji faces threats of habitat loss. Ofcourse, human activities included. Responsible tourism and stricter land use policies are being required to ensure that future generations can witness this beautiful blooms. It is not just saving a flower but it’s about preserving the rich biodiversity and cultural heritage that it represents.

#Blue Mountains

The Nilgiris in southern India are often called as Blue Mountains, and this name comes from a combination of two reasons. One is because of these flowers and the other one is due to blueish haze (Rayleigh scattering). The eucalyptus trees in the Nilgiris also plays a role in this haze it seems, as they release oils into the atmosphere, enhancing the bluish tint. There is a blue mountain express as well.

Witnessing these Neelakurinji bloom is an unforgettable one. It is a rare moment when beauty, nature, and culture coming together! Make sure to see it if you get the chance!

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Kottukkaali/The Adamant Girl (2024) Movie Review

The movie explores themes of caste, patriarchy, and interpersonal relationships through the journey of Pandi and Meena.

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I watched this movie after being intrigued by the trailer and Soori’s role. He did an amazing role here. It’s a slow-paced film. If you’re looking for a clear plot or fast-paced action, this one isn’t for you. The story is open-ended and unfolds at its own pace

The plot revolves around Pandi and Meena, who are traveling to meet a seer. Pandi is Meena’s maternal uncle. He had been abroad for a long time, while Meena is continuing her studies. When he returns, he finds out Meena is in love with a man from a different caste. The movie is set in a rural village. They are on a journey to get advice from the seer, hoping to change Meena’s mind. The film doesn’t spoon-feed the plot through dialogues. Instead, it lets the audience think and understand what’s happening through the scenes.

In the beginning of the scene, Meena’s hair is oiled and plaited while she sits alone at home. A rooster is also tied to a rock, struggling. Both Meena and the rooster are shown as being tied down by the men in their lives.

The conversations between the family members are unsettling, even though they’re within the same family. The film explores interpersonal relationships within the context of culture and village life. The discussions revolve around how others might judge them. There’s talk about the family name being spoiled, in-laws being shamed, and a planned function being ruined. All these conversations are focused on how society perceives them.

One thing to notice is the lack of proper facilities. There are no petrol stations, no proper sanitation, and mostly barren lands during their travel. Houses are scattered, and the unimportant things seem more accessible

The sisters in the movie are the most vocal. They question people, ask Meena’s father to pay the bill, criticize others, and even advise Pandi. But when it comes to talking about menstruation, they fall silent. Are they still hesitant? Or is it still taboo?

While traveling, they come across a ritual being celebrated by a random maternal uncle. Meena stares at a poster. The movie gives you time to think: will Meena follow the same path as the women in the poster? Is this her last innocent smile? Or will she be allowed to make her own choices?

There are two children in the movie: a boy and a girl. The boy, who travels with them, is unaware of what’s going on. He enjoys his snacks and feeds the rooster and stay’s in his world. But he’s the one who cries when Meena is beaten badly. The movie doesn’t reveal a hint whether he will grow up with the same patriarchal mindset. The girl, on the other hand, seems brave, controlling a bull. It’s left to us to interpret whether future generations will be brave like her when Meena looked at her, or if Meena sees herself in that girl.

Meena’s character stands out. She prays silently, bears the beatings, and even hums a love song, suggesting there’s still love for the man she’s in a relationship with. Her role captures the rigidness, silent suffering, and strength to endure the situation. The movie clearly blends themes of caste, superstition, patriarchy, and interpersonal relationships. Meena has to fight against these strong factors.

Pandi’s character is complex. At first, he’s hopeful that Meena will change her mind. He tries to make eye contact and believes she will listen. But as time passes, and after seeing her pray and hum the love song, his hope begins to fade. His ego, fear of losing her, or possessiveness causes him to lash out violently. He loses control, and you can almost see an animalistic rage in him. Even the elder people, Meena’s parents. Unexpected! He did end up of explaining his rage to her father and her mother was ignored.

The ending of the movie is open to us to interpret. When they reach the seer, another family is ahead of them for consultation. There were families irrespective of status. The woman from the earlier family stands still, unresponsive. The seer performs rituals, and at the end, a rooster is killed and tossed aside, its final moments haunting. Pandi walks away deep in thought.

The seer calls for the next family, but Pandi walks toward them, lost in his own wavering thoughts. The movie doesn’t give a clear conclusion. Maybe Pandi saw himself in the earlier family, or maybe he realized Meena won’t change. It’s also possible that his love for her made him decide to let go. I am not sure tho! The film leaves it to the us to interpret what happens next. It is available in amazon prime. Give it try!

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Inside Out 2 (2024) Movie Review

The review discusses Inside Out 2’s exploration of new emotions in Riley’s adolescence, emphasizing personal growth and emotional complexity.

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I was waiting for this movie to be released on OTT platforms. It came out on Google TV, but I didn’t have a subscription. So, I waited for it on Disney or Amazon. I have to admit, I missed seeing this in big screen. The quick recap of Inside Out 1, where Riley’s emotions were simple. They were joy, sadness, disgust, anger, and fear which explained her behavior, as well as her parents. The main idea of the joy to make sure that Riley feels happy and good throughout. However, by the end, Joy realized that sadness and the other emotions are necessary to navigate life.

For Inside Out 2, I wasn’t sure if it was meant for teenagers or adults. Some might think it’s just an animated film for kids, but I don’t agree. It helps explain how people act in different situations. When Riley reaches puberty, new emotions like anxiety, embarrassment, envy, nostalgia, and boredom appear alongside her existing ones. At first, the memories from the first movie formed her belief that she is a good person, kind and caring.

When anxiety takes control over the emotional control panel after puberty, Riley starts to predict and deal with the unknown. Her behavior changes to focus on what will help her in the future. Anxiety becomes the dominant emotion, pushing Joy and others aside. Joy struggles to bring things back to how things were. There’s a great line from Joy about adulthood: we have so much to deal with, which is why happiness feels harder to hold onto happiness all the time. Riley’s belief shifts from “I am a good person” to “I am not good enough” when anxiety take control. She worries about fitting in, even thinking, “If I don’t like that band, I’ll never be friends with them.”

The ending was remarkable. When Joy tries to restore Riley’s belief that she’s good and kind, Anxiety steps in, saying, “We don’t define Riley.” That line really stood out. Joy then adds that all of Riley’s memories, even the ones pushed to the back of her mind, contribute to who she is.

In the end, Riley is a mix of all her experiences. She is good, kind, selfish, and more. She accepts her true self, and the final quote was very powerful. But, It is also important to note that our sense of self isn’t static. It grows and adapts with every experience, which is just one of the factors that shape who we are!

I do wonder why emotions like excitement, love, pride, guilt, and loneliness weren’t explored. Maybe they’re saving them for the third part? If so, I’m excited!

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So you want to be a writer?

Bukowski emphasizes that writing should come naturally and passionately; if it feels forced or for external gains, don’t pursue it.

by Charles Bukowski

if it doesn't come bursting out of you
in spite of everything,
don't do it.
unless it comes unasked out of your
heart and your mind and your mouth
and your gut,
don't do it.


if you have to sit for hours
staring at your computer screen
or hunched over your
typewriter
searching for words,
don't do it.


if you're doing it for money or
fame,
don't do it.

......

if you have to sit there and
rewrite it again and again,
don't do it.

.....

if you're trying to write like somebody
else,
forget about it.
if you have to wait for it to roar out of
you,
then wait patiently.
if it never does roar out of you,
do something else.

.....
unless the sun inside you is
burning your gut,
don't do it.
when it is truly time,
and if you have been chosen,
it will do it by
itself and it will keep on doing it
until you die or it dies in you.

there is no other way.

and there never was.
Reposting From Sifting Through the Madness for the Word, the Line, the Way, the line, the way by Charles Bukowski (Source: Poets.org)

Found that poem through YT. It was inspiring! Hope it helps! These lines made me pause and think. They remind us that real creativity comes from a deep, genuine place. Bukowski urges us not to force it but to wait until we truly feel it. It’s a simple yet powerful!

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Hidden Expiry Date!

The content explains the distinction between perishable and non-perishable commodities, emphasizing that all products have a price and an eventual expiry or transformation.

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Almost everything we buy has a price and an expiry date. For some products, we know the exact expiry date. For others, we can only guess when they might expire.

In agriculture, we classify products into two categories: perishable and non-perishable commodities.

Perishable commodities are those that spoil quickly. These include items like milk, fruits, and vegetables. For example, milk usually expires within a day or two. You need to consume it fast or it goes bad.

On the other hand, non-perishable commodities last much longer. Items like rice, flour, and beans can stay good for months or even years if stored properly. However, even non-perishable items can expire quickly when we change their form. Take rice as an example. Raw rice can last for years, but once it’s cooked, it must be eaten within a day or two.

You might question me with things like diamonds or rocks?

While they don’t have a typical “expiry date,” they still change over time. Diamonds are incredibly durable but can chip or crack under certain conditions. Rocks, too, last for millions of years but eventually erode due to natural processes called weathering and they transform into soil. Everything experiences transformation, even if it takes centuries.

This idea of expiry applies to almost all aspects of life.

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Sentinel

A triune formed by what's unsaid, 
Unspoken words hang around the air.
You dance around with our hidden fears,
Longing to bridge these unseen possibilities.

Keeper of secrets, yet misunderstood
How strange, this bond of secrecy!
That binds us, yet sets none free.

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Choices and Challenges

The debate highlighted women’s struggles in choosing between homemaking and working, emphasizing the need for societal change.

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This is a follow-up to my earlier post. Please read that one first for better understanding.

There was a debate on Neeya Nana, a Tamil TV show, about homemakers vs. working women. The show was filled with women and two men. The educated working women group argued that having a job gives financial independence, spreading knowledge, and promoting inclusivity. On the other side, the educated homemakers emphasized the importance of parenting, home maintenance, personal time, and providing healthy food for the family.

Women have the choice to work or stay at home, but some are privileged while others are oppressed. Here are some key points from the show:

  • Men doesn’t have a choice of staying at home
  • Raising children is harder without a joint family.
  • Balancing work with family health and values is tough.
  • Mothers feel pressured to raise children while men remain the providers.
  • Society expects women to be the “perfect” mother.
  • Sons who grow up with a homemaker mother might expect the same from their wives.
  • Some women may idolize homemakers and stop prioritizing education and work.
  • Correction on the taboo around periods. Women should rest during their menstrual cycle if they choose, not be forced. Too much of conditioning on women
  • The working set up/ companies doesn’t offer enough space to look after the kids.

However, the show missed addressing some issues

  • Domestic violence and oppression when women stay at home.
  • Emotional manipulation and undermining women’s intelligence.
  • The importance of working if the husband passes away.
  • The ability to leave a marriage in case of abuse.
  • Some women don’t have the choice between homemaking and working.
  • Work as escapism to certain people
  • It shouldn’t cause conflict over the choices they make
  • The involvement of men in all these issues addressed was missing.

Apart from that, two men supported and sat on the working women side, but I’m not sure what they said. It wasn’t telecasted either. Both sides in the debate justified and projected their choices, but none mentioned the struggles women (as collective) face either way.

In my previous post, I spoked about how women are vital to the economy. Developed nations have more women in the workforce, with better daycare and healthcare systems compared to ours. It helps to simplify their role and responsibilities. However, women here, are often ones who face criticism if something goes wrong with their children/family.

While we discuss gender issues and increasing women’s participation in various sectors, real changes are needed at the grassroots level—from both men and women. In the end, real progress for women will only come when we stop framing their choices as right or wrong and start addressing the deeper struggles they face—at home, at work, and in society. True equality begins when both men and women share the responsibility for change. It is available in Disney. Give it a try.

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