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Outgrowing people takes time. We all know this, but we don’t truly understand it until we experience it.

People come into our lives as either a blessing or a lesson. Nothing in between. And we play the same role in others’ lives too.

Blessings are rare. Lessons keep repeating until we learn. Different people, same patterns. It’s up to us, learn and move on, or ignore and repeat.

After all, some lessons aren’t yours to teach!

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I finished reading Life Lessons from Bregson, a book I got from a book fair. It was interesting. I’ll post a review next. TBH. tough reads! But for now, I want to share a thought that stayed with me for a few days.

Lately, I’ve been spending a lot of time on Instagram, mostly by scrolling reels My feed is full of videos on people’s daily routines while working from home or back from work. Cooking, cleaning, organizing. Just 30 seconds to a minute of someone else’s life. I like it. It looks aesthetic. But sometimes, I wonder, are these mundane things really that beautiful, or are they just made to look that way for the video? Watching it and living it are entirely different from each other right?

Maybe I’m drawn to these routines because mine has been off balance due to sickness. They’re like a warm blanket for me. Nice in the moment, but they don’t change anything. Maybe that’s okay for now. Watching them makes me reflect.

When I finished the last part of the book yesterday, idea on creation stood out or synced! Creation brings joy, but consumption only brings pleasure. That hit me. I’ve just been consuming content all week, chasing pleasure, not joy. But people who are truly joyful, they keep creating.

Just a thought. Might come back to it later.

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Every philosopher or books I’ve read, every mentor I’ve listened to, they all stress the importance of being in the moment. But let’s be real, how long can we actually stay present? 40 minutes? Maybe 20? And then the mind starts running between bills, work, that fight from last week. Sometimes, it spirals into deeper thoughts and before we could know it we are lost in mental state again.

When the brain is constantly fed with information whether it’s news, endless scrolling, or problem-solving, it becomes overloaded. But when we stop engaging in these behaviors, the silence feels unnatural, almost unsettling.

In my case, I used to rant and churn over the same problem for days, which oddly made me feel at ease. satisfied maybe? A book I read recently made me rethink my approach to thinking itself. So, I tried a thought experiment. What if I didn’t decide to think? Just let thoughts come and go without engaging? And that’s when I realized, silence felt weird. Threatening even!

It is as if the brain, so used to its constant scream of noise, doesn’t know what to do with silence. Call this a dopamine withdrawal (hit and baseline cycle).

Just observing my thoughts without drowning in them. The weird part? I do feel calm yet at the same time, my rational mind is whispering “Silence is dangerous and something is wrong.”

It’s almost hilarious yet surprising to see how the mind works against itself resisting the very thing that might bring it clarity. Piling up the emotions also isn’t good for the health, you know! But now, I’m starting to wonder if there’s another way, one that doesn’t involve either suppressing thoughts or endlessly feeding them.

I don’t have a solution that works for me yet, just an awareness. Letting the mind sit in silence for a few minutes maybe a solution? What works for you?

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PS: Picked “A diary of young girl by Anne Frank”

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Here are my key takeaways from Don’t Believe Everything You Think by Joseph Nguyen. It’s a quick and easy read, not a heavy one! Trust me!

The book highlights the difference between thoughts and thinking. This helps us to see and understand why we experience anxiety, nervousness, and negativity. It also explains how the rational mind works in justifying it.

I trust my inner instincts, and this book added a layer to that belief as well.

The quotes in it were inspiring. One that stood out to me was from Albert Einstein.

No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it.

Cheers

PS: Re-reading might bring something else!

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I started reading Don’t Believe Everything You Think by Joseph Nguyen. I’m not writing a summary yet since I haven’t finished the book.

At the beginning there’s a quote by Sheryl Sandberg,

We cannot change what we are not aware of, and once we are aware, we cannot help but change.

A year ago, I wrote about how difficult it is to accept change. But over time, I’ve realized that subtle changes happen within us, often we fail to notice. It takes time and sometimes a specific situation to recognize these shifts in ourselves.

When faced with new challenges/similar situations, we often feel scared. Will we handle them with our new, changed selves, or will old habits and patterns pop up and ruin? At first, the “new us” might struggle and stumble, but with repeated experiences, we start to lead with this evolved version. Eventually, we realize the old version of ourselves no longer exists.

Change, though gradual, becomes undeniable! It takes time tho!

Cheers!

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I’ve always believed that it’s nearly impossible to express deep emotions with words. I tend to overexplain when I want to make sure others understand where I’m coming from. But sometimes, I just give up because no matter how much I explain, words can’t capture the feeling.

Dostoevsky proved me wrong. When I first picked up White Nights, I thought, How could he convey everything in few pages? I was skeptical. But when he describes his history to Nastenka, I was dead. Hell!

I never knew loneliness could be expressed so deeply. The way he describes emotions, even in third-person, pulls you into his world. The rollercoaster of emotions in just 76 pages still stays with me. N number of times, the name was mentioned.

Some of his lines, especially, struck me:

One could not help asking oneself whether ill humored and capricious people could live under such a sky.

Nothing else! Why, is not that enough for you, you insatiable person?

Because he is the artist of his own life, and creates it for himself every hour to suit his latest within.

One deceives oneself and unconsciously believes that real true passion is stirring one’s soul, one unconsciously believes that there is something living, tangible in one’s immaterial dreams! And is it delusion?

I do not blame you because I have no power over your heart, such is my fate!

Let them flow, let them flow, they don’t hurt anybody. They will dry.

Oh, if only he were you, echoed in my mind.

I saw myself just as I was now, fifteen years hence, older, in the same room, just as solitary

Is that too little for the whole of a man’s life?

Now, I understand, why people quote him rather than expressing themselves!

Cheers!

PS: Loved the name, Nastenka!

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Sometimes, we feel like everything revolves around us—our problems, successes, failures, gestures, or even our moments of shame. I’m not sure how humans evolved to constantly seek validation and appreciation. At times, I catch myself seeking validation even from AI.

The truth is, we’re important to some, but at the same time, we’re important to no one. I’m about 50-60% convinced of this, and I’m working on fully accepting it. Sometimes, I fall off the balance. Reading Kafka’s Metamorphosis and going through some life experiences probably helped me get to this point.

Everyone is replaceable, and eventually, we’ll all be forgotten. Yet, we still matter in the grand scheme of the universe like a speck of dust or a ripple causing the butterfly effect. Call it karma or whatever you like.

It’s hard to explain, but it’s about being attached to everything while staying detached from the self. I am not sure if I am making sense here. It’s liberating to realize we’re not the center of the universe. But accepting this takes time. Just like understanding that the sun doesn’t revolve around us, but it’s still essential for life.

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Sometimes, we overlook and often ignore the basics. Everyone writing, advising, or speaking to us often repeats what we already know. But it doesn’t strike a chord until it actually does. That moment of clarity makes us realize, Damn! I knew this all along, how did I not think of it earlier?

I felt this while reading Seth’s blog today about decisions and choices. The words may seem different or even similar, yet they share a fine thread of connection/distinction.

• Decisions are strategic, involving the risk assessments and predicted outcomes. They often belong to the professional world or materialistic side of life. For example deciding between iPhone 16 Pro Max and Samsung S25.
• Choices, on the other hand, reflect our priorities rather than outcomes. They involve accepting risks irrespective of consequences, and are more deeply personal. Here, sticking with the current device or switching to a preferred one.

We know the difference, yet the line between decisions and choices often blurs, especially when circumstances are unfavorable. We start assuming a choice is a decision, or vice versa, depending on the situation.

But life isn’t always ceteris paribus, is it? Everything doesn’t remain constant. The beauty lies in sailing this thin blurred line whenever life demands it.

Cheers!

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The quote “Being a writer doesn’t necessarily mean you write, it just means you don’t know how to do math” caught my attention while scrolling IG. It made me smile. I can relate to it, but not in the way it sounds.

It’s not that I can’t do math. Math is a powerful tool for solving problems. Everything leads to math in the end. It uses various theories and rules to break down even the most difficult issues, and with the right resources, you can usually find a solution.

However, as you grow, you realize that some problems, no matter how hard you try, just can’t be solved. You can gather all the resources, apply theories and strategies, and still find no resolution. Sometimes, the only conclusion is that some issues are beyond our control.

The best thing you can do is accept that some problems aren’t meant to be solved nor even questioned.

It just takes a little courage in the end!

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