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Merry Christmas! This year felt like it flew by in the blink of an eye, leaving little time to process everything that happened. lol! I didn’t create a wish list or vision board at the start, which made the journey feel both unpredictable. Obviously, life takes unexcepted turns! However, as I look ahead, I’m willing to be more intentional.

My prime goal for 2025, is to focus on the positive aspects of life and let go of negativity. Vision board for 2025, yet to begin but I’m excited. I am going to do some retrospection here! You are allowed to skip this one!

Blog

• Blog posts wrote : 124, might write before the year ends!
• Personal favorite: Finding Moments of Stillness and Silent Echoes.
• Total views as of today: 14,646

Books

• Read: Toilet, Do Epic Shit, The Courage to Be Disliked, The Midnight Library, Atomics Habits (re-read) and Metamorphosis.
• Currently reading: Nudge and Man’s Search for Meaning, saving them to finish on New Year’s Eve.

Music and Movies

• Top songs: Apocalypse by CAS and the recent CO2. Spotify and YouTube showed otherwise!
• Favorite movies: Lover, Perfect Days, 8 AM Metro, Laapataa Ladies, Lubber Pandhu.

Memories

• January 12th: Cleared my debt.
• May 21st: Wedding photo that stirred tough emotions.
• October 20th: Overcame a fear.
• December 15th: Visited office after years of remote work.

Moments

• Attended a random wedding.
• Made conscious choices, including saying no when necessary
• Taking time for reflection and introspection.
• Faced moments of manipulation.
• Met kind souls and paws

These thoughts are not meant to flaunt anything, but rather to express my first attempt at viewing things differently and connecting the dots.

I believe you can do the same to better understand yourself, discovering your likes and dislikes along the way. I hope that things improve, and we all learn to navigate life’s challenges, much like learning to surf the wind with more courage and confidence.

Cheers!

PS: Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!

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Does life ever slow down? I don’t think so!

As we age, time often feels like it’s slipping away. Everything demands attention. Career, health, family, finances, self-care, and relationships (if any, lol). It can feel like life is a constant juggling act, with no room to pause. Does it slow down? I doubt!

There’s a common notion that effective time management is simply a skill. You can see lot of webinars and courses available. But in practice, managing priorities often requires trade-offs! Sometimes, you have to spend money to save time. It’s less about perfection and more about who juggle their priorities carefully.

The other day, I checked my website analytics. I don’t look at them often, maybe once or twice a week. The graph made me think. It showed my habits. You might see as well!

Guilty as charged! Some days, I’m fully engaged (peaks) and present, other days, I disappear (flats) for 10 – 15 days. Then, suddenly some inspiration hits, and I dive back in.

Its been a week since I touched the book! Hoping to read!

It’s not that reading or writing isn’t important. It is. but are just one of many priorities, often shifted around with others. You simply need to master the art of juggling between them!

With that said, which is better? Juggling priorities or maintaining consistency?

And how do you balance?

Cheers

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Finished reading Metamorphosis. At first, the book takes you to an imaginary world. So far, I’ve been reading non-fiction or self-help books, where the scenes are easier to imagine. This was different. I found myself trying to visualize the vermin as described in the book. I’m not sure how much it matches Kafka’s. No where near!

The first two chapters didn’t affect me much. It was interesting to see how people initially react when the breadwinner of the family turns into a vermin. But the third chapter hits you hard. It truly made me understand the meaning behind the title Metamorphosis.

Here’s what stood out to me:

• His struggles to accept the transformation: At first, he finds it hard to believe he has turned into a vermin. The physical appearance!
• Hiding from others: He avoids facing anyone and hides. By the end, he doesn’t even care. Swept off by the violin music.
• Losing his voice: He tries to speak at first but eventually loses even the thought of communicating.
• Family dynamics: Grete, his sister, cares for him. She tries feeding him different foods. But over time, even she gets tired of cleaning and feeding him.
• Adapting to darkness: He gets used to staying in the shadows.
• Pain changes: The pain is sharp at first but dulls over time.
• Family’s independence: The family, once dependent on Gregor, slowly learns to fend for themselves.
• Longing for connection: Despite everything, he craves human connection especially Grete.

While reading, I kept linking this book to The Courage to Be Disliked. I’m not entirely sure why. One is a novel, and the other is philosophical. Yet, both made me reflect on this: to feel alive and truly live, a person needs to feel useful to others

Now, if we consider Adlerian philosophy, it teaches us to find meaning by contributing to others without expecting recognition or validation. However, Gregor longed for connection. His value was lost, and complete isolation broke him. This shows how isolation can harm us psychologically.

While internal meaning is important, we are social beings at heart or by nature. The real challenge is finding balance. Feeling worthy on our own while staying meaningfully connected to others or to the community. Balance is one of the hardest things to do, extremes are always easier!

Books like Kafka’s Metamorphosis and The Courage to Be Disliked explore these intriguing ideas. They teach us that human value isn’t just about productivity or society’s expectations. It’s much deeper, multidimensional and complex. Hard to get a grasp of it!

That’s what I’m taking away from this book.

Cheers!

P.S. Nudge – Next reading!

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There was once a traveler called Sara (Iykyk) who carried two different maps in her backpack. One was old, crushed, torn and marked with lines. The other was new, still crisp but with soft edges.

When she was younger, she thought the map was everything. Each destination was a goal. Every mile was a success to her. She walked with a fixed pace, following the lines with no questions and arguments.

But maps do change right? Landscapes changed. And so did she.

As the years passed, she learned that paths are not always straight. The journey itself had its own stories. The stones underfoot, the unexpected turns, and moments of doubt became more evident and important than any destination.

She also learned that companionship changes the journey.

Some people she met were like strict compasses. They always pointed north and didn’t understand if the path shifted. They measured progress by their own rules. They judged, instead of encouraging and hindered the path (Kulla nari).

Other companions were different (Buji). They walked beside her. Sometimes their steps matched, sometimes they didn’t. When the journey got hard, they helped to carry the weight.

When new things came along, they looked with curiosity and not criticism. They didn’t just see the path their way and they were open to seeing it through others’ eyes.

She understood that the journey is about moving forward and not being perfect. It’s about all growth. Their presence invited her to explore, not to follow a set direction.

In these moments, sometimes it was quiet. Sometimes full of conversation, she realized that a journey isn’t about how far you go. It’s about how much you understand and make it meaningful.

The destination once important, now not mattered. The journey was and with the right company. The journey could become something shared something richer and beautiful said Dora. Who knows, in five years, Dora might say something else!

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Today, while clearing out my inbox, I used keyboard shortcuts to sift through unread emails quickly. I skimmed each one, moving important messages to labeled folders (love to give colors), archiving those that weren’t, and moving to the next.

In the middle of this routine, I came across a quote in Morgan Housel’s Collab Fund newsletter that grabbed my attention. It was titled A Message from the Past. Curiosity got the best of me, so I opened it, but since I was in a rush, I only read the first few lines before closing it and returned to my inbox to cleanup.

However, the quote kept echoing in my mind:

The past is more uncertain than the future!

It was written by Russian poet Yevgeny Yevtushenko, tho I wasn’t sure. We often think of the future as unpredictable, full of surprises, and hear advice like “Don’t live in the future! Future is unpredictable! You never know what’s going to happen.” This quote seemed to suggest the opposite, leaving me a bit confused.

Eventually, I went back to the email again and read it in full, as well as a few others, and found the idea fascinating. I could really relate to it. Every time I think about my past right from childhood moments to events as recent as yesterday, I notice my understanding of these events shifts.

Let’s say something happened in 2006, my version of it in 2012, 2018, 2020, and now would each be different. It is actually. With my experiences, understanding and perspectives over a period of time, and when I look back, it’s like seeing things with a new lens.

That’s why, in a way, the past does feel uncertain pola!

What are your thoughts?

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I’ve been preoccupied with both work and thoughts, which kept me from writing. Apologies. But one idea has been running through my mind for the past week: expectation. It’s a small word, yet it carries a huge weight.

Recently, I’ve been reading about some fascinating concepts—terms like separation of tasks, vertical and horizontal relationships, self-acceptance, and confidence in others. I haven’t finished that book yet. I don’t want to dive deep into these theories right now, but one particular idea stood out to me: separation of tasks.

This idea revolves around the notion that whatever you need to do in life is your responsibility, and no one else can do it for you. Sure, people can assist you, encourage, or guide you, but at the end of the day, the task is yours alone. Everyone has their life tasks. It’s up to you to complete it. Philosophers often say that life moves forward without expectations, that humans merely exist, and we shouldn’t burden ourselves with the expectations of others. But, let’s be honest, expectations are everywhere.

Parents have expectations of their children. Teachers have them for their students. Bosses expect results from employees, and partners expect support or time from each other. These expectations could be about something material, about effort, or simply about showing up when needed. No one escapes them.

What really got me thinking was how this separation of tasks could change the way we handle expectations. The idea is that when you focus on your own tasks and trust others to handle theirs, the weight of expectations could reduce to an extent. You aren’t constantly worrying about meeting someone else’s expectations, and you’re not trying to do someone else’s job either. It frees you, in a way or the other.

But here’s the catch—this only works if you can accept yourself as you are, do what’s expected of you, and trust others to handle their own lives. That means having confidence in others and in you. It sounds simple, but how many of us actually trust ourselves and others that they will do theirs without stepping in to “help” or manage?

I find this concept interesting. But is it realistic? I’m not sure if I can fully follow this approach completely, but it’s definitely something I want to reflect on more. Maybe the key to handling expectations lies in accepting yourself, doing your own part, and trusting that others will do theirs. Hope! But it did sounds weird when someone says, I have no expectations! Lol. I need to reflect!

Cheers

PS: Not sure, if this post makes sense

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